Happy November! Crazy it’s November already!
So last blog I filled you in on where I have been. I talked about the
feelings over the last 4 months and the rollercoaster that is being an entrepreneur. I feel like whether you are a CEO or owner of a large multi-million dollar company or if you are running a lemonade stand you are going to go through this rollercoaster.
I saw a picture Jenna Kutcher had posted (btw if you don’t follow her you need to. She may be a photographer but she is also a social/Instagram genius @jennakutcher) and it made me laugh. I think what made me laugh the most was how true it was. True for me and my business and emotions but could see those around me going through and suck in this list. There really are some days you go through the whole cycle of I am awesome, to telling yourself that you suck the very next minute. It happens, we are human and even the person with the best, and most positive mindset is still going to have days where they go through this. I do think you can get to a point when you realize those, I suck thoughts are creeping in and push them out before they have an effect on your day? Absolutely. but even the strongest people have weak moments. Being an entrepreneur is all about how you handle those week moments. Do you give up, through your hands in the air and say fuck this and quit? Or do you say this is temporary and just a new challenge that I get to figure out how to overcome this scenario? If you haven’t noticed in your own journey figuring it out is the only want to make you a better person, and business owner.
Let me say in full honesty….. I have had those fuck this moments often this last year, pouted, wanted to hide in the closet and start drinking wine/beer/you name the liquor at 11am. In the end though, I realized that 5 years (shoot even 6 months from now or 3 hours) from now I am not going to remember the employee that quit, flaked out, made an excuse or the consultant that told me how bad she wanted it only to turn around and say fuck this when things got hard or didn’t go in her favor. So if you can get used to acknowledging when you are stuck in the middle of this list, in the middle of the this sucks, I suck phase the faster you can pull yourself out of it so much faster. It’s ok to give life the middle finger once and a while but it would be awkward if you walked around with your middle finger out 24/7, am I right? I really don’t feel like my blogs have been very ranty I hate ranty. Those people that sit on their high horse and try to tell you how it is like they are better than you. Well I don’t think I am better than anyone but this is my observation because I have been in a place where I have been in the I suck, this sucks, this is hard. I had two choices…. Suck it up restart, rethink, regoal, recreate myself and figure it out because its important or take the easy way out retreat and quit. Come on which did you think I would choose?
We all know those people whether you are in business, direct sales or an MLM….Those people that when things get hard they make the choice to sit in the I suck, this sucks, this is hard phase and they retreat and they quit. They go looking for the next best thing and instead of making the best out of what they already have invested so much time, energy, and money in. Shoot money is renewable but you can’t get your energy and time back. This is what I have a hard time wrapping my brain around. Why spend 2 years or shoot even 2 months or 2 minutes for that matter putting your blood sweat, tears, time money and energy into something you are like eh I am over it the minute you don’t like it or its hard <totally reread in a whinny voice, is it hard or are you, I mean they just being lazy>? The worst part is this retreat, regression, quitting is easy. It’s easier to quit, place blame, find something new than just own up to the fact that they gave up and quit because it was hard. I feel like once you start taking the easy road it’s easy to make a habit.
I see it all the time on my Facebook and social media (and I know you have to or maybe you are one of those people, sorry for the truth bomb) those people that were selling one product one week and they join another company, start in with the this is awesome, let me spam you and please buy all the things phase, to a month later you are like wth are they selling now?? Unfortunately habits are hard to break and if they keep searching for the THIS IS AWESOME, I am awesome rather than creating it daily for themselves and they are not going no better off today, than they were 2 years ago and unfortunately 5 years from now unless they step up and stop quitting when they get stuck in the cycle at the, I suck, this sucks phase. They say weight is gained easier than it’s lost; just like quitting is easier than pushing for better results and more success.
I don’t know about you but I want to hang out in the I am awesome, and I rock phase more often. Guess who makes the choice to be in those zones. YOU>>> that’s the best part. I constantly push myself daily and hourly if need be to get back to that this is awesome, I am awesome stage.
HOW? I look at where I am currently, why am I in this phase, am I using my full potential and look at what are my goals and vision for my future. Most of the time I am in the I suck, this sucks, this is hard because I am supposed to be learning a lesson or because I need to overcome a challenge to make myself and my business better. I can let one I suck, this sucks moment define me or I can say this sucks but I am awesome and move on… it’s a choice. You have a choice to find success, a choice to be awesome, a choice to create the life you want, a choice to not suck, and a choice to stick with it. Find the positive in the, this sucks moment and it will help pull you through to the next this is awesome moment.
Commit to yourself to not take the easy way out this month. Commit to find more of this is awesome, I am awesome moments. If have plans to restart something, re-launch or shoot for a goal, DO IT. Don’t just say you are going to do it. Go for it even if it scares you and even if you have moments of this sucks, I suck, this is hard. People that retreat and quit never make it to the top.
So what’s more important to you? Finding success, supporting your family and making it happen for yourself, or taking the easy way out and going in search for the next best thing because this sucks and it’s hard.
Ps I feel like if something no longer supports your goals and vision that’s not quitting or retreating that is making a strong move towards your future. AS LONG AS, you know deep down that you are being true to yourself and your decision and not just backing out because it sucks and its hard (or boring) then you are making the right move. EX: if your job is to help kids but your positions changes and you are no longer helping kinds then find something that aligns with your vision. If your vision and goal is to make extra income and you spend 2 months starting a business to make extra income but people are telling you no or no one is interested KEEP PUSHINGS>>>> don’t take the easy way out. That business can still get you to your vision if you push past the discomfort and do what needs to be done to find the this is awesome, I am awesome. I guarantee you there is more you could do to find it. Because I know for my business when times are slow and its “hard” it’s because I didn’t and am not taking enough action in the right areas to ensure a this is awesome I am awesome feeling!
The best thing to do is acknowledge where you are on this list and what you need to do to stay in the I rock, this is awesome, I am awesome.